Speak the truth,and let the pieces fall. Don’t speak the truth with love. How about some hardness of heart? My mind can’t believe what I am hearing when it happens.
People are so hardened. Until you give your heart to Jesus, you will be just like the world. Submission means your mouth gets in line with what God says about things. Forgive, and if the forgiveness is still un-forgiveness, then you will have to go have a talk with the person. Speak the truth with love, but say it.