I have good, and bad, memories. God heals memories, and He works on the hurts that we have gone through, if we allow this. I still have memories that are places where I have been abruptly, verbally, tackled. My sister did this many times when I was growing up. We were sent to our rooms often.
I know that all things work together for those who love God , who are called according to His purpose.
I know that everyone won’t walk in the power of the Holy Spirit. I believe God gives wisdom when we ask for it. Those who rush out to speak without God’s blessing, may receive a brutal reply that hurts. Weigh your words. If you walk in the Holy Spirit, some speaking on your behalf will be from the Holy Spirit. The fruit of the Holy Spirit is love, joy, peace patience and many more fruit. I hope you are leaning on Him to help you speak with the fruit of the Holy Spirit.