When I have conflict, I speak to it, but I try not to say too much. I don’t want to make the problem worse. I speak to it, and when I see that it is not going to change, I wait to talk about it. I go home, and pray for the people for several hours, or days until the burden lifts. You don’t know what made them speak to you this way. Their anger might have made you mad. You spoke to that but to no avail. So go home, and pray. Tell God about it. Ask Him to get in the car with them, and to talk to them about them. Ask Him for wisdom.
At times he might give you a picture, or words of wisdom. Continue to pray. The person is not the enemy. It is the spirit talking through them that is trying to bring you into an argument. Rebuke what you discern, and tell it to leave in Jesus name. Making your encounter a matter of prayer will build your faith, and help you the next time. Take it to God, and give it entirely to Him. At times you might give, and self won’t let you leave it. Give it to God as many times as you have to in order to truly give the problem to Him.
If there is illness, intercede for the person. They don’t have to be right there with you to receive a healing. Your prayers in Jesus name are powerful to the pulling down of strongholds. Ask God what the stronghold is. Beware of religious spirits. They like to make you religious with no power. Bind them and release the Power of the Holy Spirit in you. The Holy Spirit came when you received Christ as your Savior.